There’s something about two people who are amazing, loving and caring individuals in their own right finding each other and saying, “Yes! Together, we are amazing! Let’s make this amazingness permanent!”
At Transcendent Ceremonies, my goal is to tell your Love Story so that those who are lucky enough to be with you at your wedding will learn something about you.
Here are the top five things I think you should consider when hiring an officiant:
Is you date available? If you’re getting married in a church, then you will already have this taken care of. If you’re not, then keep in mind good officiants can book up months in advance. Many times I’ve had calls just a few weeks ahead of the wedding date and have had to turn people down (which I dislike doing!). If you have a specific person in mind, then call them as soon as you’ve set your date and ceremony venue to avoid disappointment.
Is the officiant you are considering legally authorized to preform marriages where you are getting married?
There have been a few incidents in Ontario over the past year of people offering to perform marriages when they weren’t legally allowed to do so. This is certainly not a common experience, but imagine coming home from your honeymoon only to realize that you are not actually married. I carry a notarized card in my wallet at all times to show that I am an ordained member of the clergy, and in my office I have my license from the province prominently displayed. Service Ontario has a great online search engine to confirm your choice of officiant: https://www.ontario.ca/document/religious-marriage-officiants
Do your personalities work well together?
How many times have you been to a wedding where you felt like the ceremony was completely different from the rest of the wedding? You know what I’m talking about: the couple are easygoing and fun-loving, while the ceremony is stuffy and rigid. You want to make sure that the person leading your ceremony is in line with your vision for the day because the ceremony sets the stage for your pictures and your reception as well. This is why I have a meet-and-greet with all my prospective couples before agreeing to work with them. We need to be sure we like each other, because we have a lot of work to do together.
What are other people saying about them? Personal referral can be key!
Do some research and read some reviews, not just from their website but from their Facebook page and other see if they are associated with an influential source such as The Wedding Opera. I wouldn’t be concerned if there are only a few testimonials, what matters is what they say. Depending on what you’re looking for, you want to see comments like “warm and welcoming,” “flexible and easygoing,” and “committed to making our ceremony exactly what we wanted it to be.”
Are they willing to work with you to create a ceremony that is uniquely yours?
Today, more and more couples are looking for that personal touch. Some people want their officiant to dress in costume for their theme wedding. Others want a traditional robe and stole. And still others want their officiant to wear plain, nice clothes. Some people want to mention their deceased loved ones, and some couples want to involve their pets in their ceremony. Whatever it is that matters to you, ask your officiant if they are willing to participate. Because when you look back at your wedding, you’re going to remember that you felt amazing in your outfit, you’re going to remember the amazing party that follows, and you want to remember that you had a great time saying “I do.”
Email me at RevMichelle@TranscendentCeremonies.com or call/text at 416-779-6780 to set up your consultation!